Our expectations of our children may sometimes be unrealistic, especially when we set goals that are too difficult. For example, expecting a child to read well by age three or a baby to walk well at eight months of age is unrealistic for most children. Even though some children do achieve these things early in their development, most children do not. When expectations are too high, both parents and their children may get frustrated. This can be too much pressure for the child and result in low self-esteem.
On the other side, there may be problems when parents don’t expect enough of their children. Often this results in parents not providing enough activities or experience to promote their children’s development. A parent who waits for his child to enter school to learn how to count from 1 to 10 or how to identify the basic colors has low expectations of his child.